Philip Józef Brubaker

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Having a Lot to Give and Not Giving Anything At All

Having a Lot to Give and Not Giving Anything At All

The Dilemma of Grief

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Jun 21, 2025
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I am divorced now, and that’s what this post is about. But I would be remiss not to mention that this frustration I’ve felt around having a lot to give and not giving anything goes back a long ways. It predates my ex-wife even. There are explanations I can offer as to why my personality is the way it is. Nowadays, the labels flow. If I were to setup an online dating profile, I might keep it simple and advertise myself simply as: “Pisces Monkey INFP Sigma” and let the savvy ones figure the rest out.

I’ve been formally divorced for eleven days, separated from my partner for about two and a half months. It seemed that I was ready to date again, but there are (tadaa) complications. Why, you might ask, am I writing about this in an online forum, as opposed to a journal? Because I am banking on the notion that my private thoughts and opinions are worth something; worth something to someone, who might find this post one day and connect with it.

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